There exist a special group of moms’ who are perfectly perfect. Who effortlessly parent with grace, perfectly styled hair and a string of pearls day-in and day-out always ready to send off the family with a hearty breakfast of meats and butter-slathered goodness- and I know they do exist because I’ve had Aunts who were just like June Clever. They pampered me and fed me and taught me life lessons with a smile and a cookie. Although I admire the them and women like them, this post is not for them.
This is for the other 99% of us who worry that we’ve scarred our children in some way by the mistakes we’ve made along the way. That they may remember too often the times we not so June’esc. Perhaps a better title would be; Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff. Easier said then done, I know.
KAY SERRA SERRA
Both of my kids grew up to be generous, loving souls with good hearts who adore me with all their might. We often reminisce about stories from their childhood remembering hilarious moments that made us laugh so long our tummy’s hurt- and the tears that came along with the hard lessons of adolescence. My daughter once wrote in a letter, “Like mom, I would have been really, really mad ifgave me a different mom to be born from.” I think she developed a greater appreciation of me while she was away at boot camp.
So it’s like this- most everyone blames their mom for something, I know I used to. I’ve even heard my kids say things like, “Thanks mom for giving me your!” – like I had any control over which traits they inherited from me. But there comes a time when we must stop blaming our moms’ and start taking responsibility for the person we are today. Either we accept ourselves or consciously make positive changes to feel better and be better. As we grow up, two things will inevitably happen:
1. We realize that our parents were young once after all and they’ve made mistakes but because they learned from them, were able to give us the tools to create the best versions of ourselves.
and 2. At the end of our lives, our children will cry tears of heart-wrenching sadness and yet somehow will be able to smile through it because we taught them how to love and be loved. So don’t sweat the small stuff because in the end, the very best memories of us will remain.