You know that moment where you see something or hear something and suddenly it puts your life back in perspective? Well, this morning I had such a moment.
My awesome son-in-law Ty gave me an unexpected compliment. “You’ve helped us out so much, we wouldn’t be where we are today if it weren’t for you & Byron (my husband)” To which I immediately replied, “I don’t think that’s true.” I knew immediately those words felt bad. I should have acknowledged his gratitude right away. What was I thinking dismissing his sincere compliment?! I basically told him the gratitude he felt was unfounded. I’m pretty sure I’m going to Hell for that.
This is totally unlike me. I always-always embrace every nice word someone says to me and use it to create a better version of myself. I’ve been in a funk lately, which is no excuse to dismiss someone’s feelings and I felt awful.
I must have heard that I have a beautiful smile at least once a week for a year and yet, when I looked in the mirror, I saw how my teeth were crooked and overlapped a bit. I could only focused on the flaws…so off to the dentist I went to get my teeth whitened. After taking a look at my teeth, the hygienist said that they did not need whitening and to save my money and that I had a beautiful smile. I was shocked at the compliment! Surely she saw what I saw in the mirror- but I realized that she wasn’t looking at one or two teeth but my entire smile.
I looked again at my smile- they suddenly looked brighter and straighter. Why did I feel better leaving there with nothing being done?
Own It! I take good care of my teeth, flossing, check-ups so everytime someone noticed the result, it made me feel like they noticed all my extra effort.
Visualize It! Whenever someone said my smile was beautiful, I pictured my teeth getting stronger, whiter and straighter. It gave my smile power! I visualized the compliment rushing to my smile …..making it stronger, prettier overall.
Accept it! Take the very special gift of a compliment and open it- acknowledge the giver, keep it and remember it and know without a doubt that you’ve created it.
Acknowledging someone’s positive feedback about you makes them feel good. So appreciate their sincerity. Thank you for noticing the effort I put forth on my hair, writing, volunteering, or being there for kids if they need a little help.
Those small moments of your days spent on a seemingly minute detail makes all the difference in creating your life and people will notice! And by simply accepting a compliment, you give validation to what the person thinks, feels and says matters to you a great deal; making them feel good. And feeling good is the whole point of connecting!
Believe my words- By gracefully accepting someone’s compliment, you are giving as much as you are getting.