How To Whiten Your Teeth With Compliments

You know that moment where you see something or hear something and suddenly it puts your life back in perspective? Well, this morning I had such a moment.

My awesome son-in-law Ty gave me an unexpected compliment. “You’ve helped us out so much, we wouldn’t be where we are today if it weren’t for you & Byron (my husband)” To which I immediately replied, “I don’t think that’s true.”  I knew immediately those words felt bad. I should have acknowledged his gratitude right away.  What was I thinking dismissing his sincere compliment?!  I basically told him the gratitude he felt was unfounded. I’m pretty sure I’m going to Hell for that.

 This is totally unlike me. I always-always embrace every nice word someone says to me and use it to create a better version of myself. I’ve been in a funk lately, which is no excuse to dismiss someone’s feelings and I felt awful.

For example…

I must have heard that I have a beautiful smile at least once a week for a year and yet, when I looked in the mirror, I saw how my teeth were crooked and overlapped a bit. I could only focused on the flaws…so off to the dentist I went to get my teeth whitened. After taking a look at my teeth, the hygienist said that they did not need whitening and to save my money and that I had a beautiful smile.  I was shocked at the compliment! Surely she saw what I saw in the mirror- but I realized that she wasn’t looking at one or two teeth but my entire smile.

I looked again at my smile- they suddenly looked brighter and straighter. Why did I feel better leaving there with nothing being done?

Own It!  I take good care of my teeth, flossing, check-ups so everytime someone noticed the result, it made me feel like they noticed all my extra effort. 

Visualize It! Whenever someone said my smile was beautiful, I pictured my teeth getting stronger, whiter and straighter. It gave my smile power! I visualized the compliment rushing to my smile …..making it stronger, prettier overall.

 Accept it!  Take the very special gift of a compliment and open it- acknowledge the giver, keep it and remember it and know without a doubt that you’ve created it.

Acknowledging someone’s positive feedback about you makes them feel good.  So appreciate their sincerity.  Thank you for noticing the effort I put forth on my hair, writing, volunteering, or being there for kids if they need a little help. 

Those small moments of your days spent on a seemingly minute detail makes all the difference in creating your life and people will notice!  And by simply accepting a compliment, you give validation to what the person thinks, feels and says matters to you a great deal; making them feel good.  And feeling good is the whole point of connecting!

Believe my words- By gracefully accepting someone’s compliment, you are giving as much as you are getting.

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CREATE MORNING ZEN

Don’t you just love when your morning alarm rings at 5a.m.! I do! The sweet sound of well, a sound instantly reminds me that I am privileged to continue my journey another day. That has to be the best part of anybody’s day, right? Yet, I still talk to people who dread their morning routine. Well, there’s the first issue. Instead of calling it your ‘morning routine’ which sounds dull and mundane, let’s call it ‘Morning Zen’ Learn to embrace your morning zen by slowing down your mind and body and enjoying the best thing about your life- YOU!

TURN BACK TIME

Begin your morning zen the night before by setting your alarm 2 minutes earlier each day. After just a few weeks, you’ll have added an entire 30 minutes to your day! Then vow to get the phrase, “I don’t have enough time.” out of your vocabulary for good.

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BREATHE IN BREATHE OUT

The alarm rings and your mind immediately starts racing thinking of your endless to-do list; walk the dog, feed the kids, send that email. Stop! Before you even open your eyes, take three really deep, focused breathes being aware of your inhales and exhales. This exercise will keep your body and mind in a calm state.

REACH FOR THE STARS

Stretch!Stand up and do a little stretching zen. Stand tall, clasp your hands above your head and inhale, stretch to the right, exhale. Reach for the stars, inhale, stretch to the left, exhale. Ahh, that feels good.

WARM HYDRATION

Warm Lemon Water

When you awake, your body is the most dehydrated so before getting ready for your day, drink a big glass of warm, lemon water. The benefits are plenty. From rehydrating your lymph system to flushing toxins from your body to clearing your skin, warm lemon water is the bees knees. If you have a hard time jumping on the idea of drinking warm water, start by rehydrating your body with a glass of cool, filtered lemon water then gradually increase the temperature a little each day until it’s luke warm.

SMOOTH MOVE

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Morning smoothies are a most delicious way to fuel your cells with rich nutrients and anti-oxidants. Delicious green smoothies are fortified with nutrients that sink into every cell of your body and with endless mouth-watering recipes, you can create a different one every day.  Shakes and smoothies are a fantastic way to get the good things in your body craves and will help jump-start your good decision-making all day long.

WORKIN’ ON YOUR FITNESS

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Make a morning zen that you will continue to love. By having your morning fitness routine from a dedicated fitness guru like my friend Maralana from Maralana Go Do Be ready to go, you’ll keep your health at the forefront of your life with a little accountability from a friend.

Enjoy waking up and remember, without a fit, healthy YOU- there is no need to be concerned with the rest of your day.

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4 Practical Applications For An Inspired Life

Creating the life you want should never be a chore. What is most important is feeling good, exhilarated, in-tune with what you want.  People living this way have habituated ways of feeling good because they consistently practice visualization.   By actively using these steps and focusing on the things you want out of life, more and more doors will open up to show you the way.

I often ask people, “So, what’s one thing you actually did today that got you one step further to the life you envision? ”   I want to get people thinking about their day-to-day lives and what they’re really doing with their time.  I’m going to share some more practical ways to start creating a more positive mind-set and therefore keeping you stepping in the right direction.

No News Is Good News

NewsWhile it’s important to stay up on current events, the constant negative or controversial media stories do a number on our psyche. So, for 7 days- no news.  Stay away from TV, blogs and chats about the news.  Instead, watch shows that inspire, make you feel good and think.  I enjoy learning new things so Animal Planet is a great choice for me.  Also, make reading blogs about the things you want to do or places you want to travel, part of your nightly routine.  End your days with thoughts of your Dreamlife and awake the same way.

Visualization Rules!

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On a blank piece of paper, write a goal that when you reach it, will blow your mind. 

Write it so big, it almost takes up the paper. It could be something like;  Open a bakery.  Write a book.  Move to a new place. Whatever that big thing is that you want most, write it down!

A good habit is to carry a small notebook and begin  writing down everything you want in your life.  Visualization begins by reading your words.

Now hang up your big goal in a place you will see it.  I often hang my aspirations on my front door so I will see it as I leave to start my day. Doing this will get your mind turning and keep you focused on the big picture.

Invest In Post-its

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Stick colorful post-its around your house with positive messages to keep those good feelings flowing.  I stick post-its inside cupboards, on my coffee pot, and on my mirror to keep me thinking in the right direction. I jot down quotes I adore such as, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.” –Wayne Gretzky or things I like about myself like, “I am a beautiful soul.”

The Power of Friends & Coffee

coffeeladiesCall up your most awesome friend and invite them out for a Creative Coffee Date.  Ask them to write 5 things they adore about you and you’ll do the same for them.  When you meet, read your lists to each other over a delicious latte’.  This will get the conversation flowing with admiration and appreciation for each other.  Be sure to talk about your Big Life Dream and ask if she has any advice on how to take the next steps.  She may know someone who knows someone who could help point you to the next step.  If not, she now knows your plans and will keep and ear out for any opportunities she may come across that would help you.  –That’s networking at it’s finest.

Check-up On Yourself

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 You are the most important element in your life.  Eliminating as much worry as possible, keeps your mind better able to focus the good stuff.

Is there something you’ve put off getting checked?  Perhaps you’ve noticed a mole that looks odd or your gynecologist visit is over-due.  Would a new pair of glasses make a big difference?

With many people uninsured or under-insured, it seems easy to put our health on the back burner. Don’t!  Keeping up with your health is truly the first step to living your best life.

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LOW-COST & FREE HEALTH CARE  SERVICES

Here are some great resources to keep you stepping toward optimal health.  You’re so worth it!

1) Pharmacy Care

Rite-Aid, CVS and others national chains often have free health screenings for a variety of issues during the month.  From free blood glucose readings to the common cold care.

2) Your Local Hospital

Give them a call to ask which low-cost programs and free health clinics they offer in your area.  Many hospitals have partnered with local family physicians, eye clinics and such to provide care for people who are having a tough time affording healthcare now.  You are not alone.

3) DotGov

A great resource is; Your State + Dot Gov –  Example; pennsylvania.gov.  Search health care or look around the site. You will find help with such things as where to go for immunizations, smoking cessation and more.

–>Life is about not knowing the whole journey at once. Taking the Moment and making the best of it.  These are a few real-life steps- in no particular order- to help you form positive habits that will keep you moving forward toward your authentic life.

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Create It From The Rain

What you see when you wake up and look around is there because you’ve created it by your thoughts, words, decisions, and actions- or lack thereof.  You are always creating your life. So, if you want to have everything you want and nothing you don’t- stop blaming the rain and start creating from it!

If you are living the same routine with little variation every morning, noon and night and nothing in your life is changing for the better, look inward to find what is holding you back. Is it fear of failure? Negative doubts? or Procrastination in thinking you have time yet to make the changes? Once you understand what negative thoughts and feelings are holding you back, you can begin to overpower them with the positivity to create!

This blog post –> Get Out Of My Vocabulary,  is a great way to begin being aware of negative speaking and begin thinking positively.

AS THE WORLD CHANGES, WE CHANGE THE WORLD

People and events in our lives influence us, yes.  But we also influence the people and events in our lives.

What did you do today to create what you want?

The moments of your life are fleeting!  You are not going to live forever. Read that sentence again.  Giving power to others’ negative points-of-view is a waste of your precious moments.  Instead, make that call, write down the steps to get what you really want, research how to get that better job, better home, dream vacation.  Now that’s time well spent!

HUMBLE YOURSELF

It takes real guts to stop blaming other people or circumstances and start stepping forward to your Dreamlife.  What you focus on daily, becomes the building blocks of your Dreamlife.  Time is running out and when it does, you don’t get to turn the hour-glass over.

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YOU CAN’T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS

You don’t get to take credit for all the great things that go right in your life then blame other things/people for the yucky stuff.  It’s you who is in control of your life.  Choose Positivity Every Time.  Grasp that concept and you will have cleared the path straight to your Dreamlife.  

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The Road To Limitless Opportunity

I talk with people who really believe they are stuck in their job, town or dull routine- and that’s exactly why they are- because they believe they are.  And oh how easy it is to blame our situation instead of realizing our potential for change.  That’s an exciting thought right? That we can actually create our entire DreamLife.   What?!  Why didn’t someone tell me it was that easy?  They did, you just didn’t believe it.

Let me share one of the not-so-secrets to living your Dreamlife:

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Do you feel like you should be doing something more? Something different with your life?  Yep, that’s because you are supposed to be doing exactly what makes you prosper the most with the talents and knowledge and personality you already have.  So when you see a sign (literally) a billboard ad, a TV commercial, a magazine article or a website that you “accidentally” click on that gives you bits of information on the very thing you’ve been wanting to do, which leads you to the next bit of information, That’s Called Opportunity.  Take it or at least see where its leading you.   Not every opportunity is perfect for you right now, but every opportunity is a lead to follow.

By shifting your conscious attention to living in the Moment, your  mind will become increasingly aware of picking out things that co-inside with what  you are searching for.  That’s your subconscious seeking answers.

PAY ATTENTION! 

In order to take that Big First Step to the next level and the next, you must recognize when an opportunity is presented to you then make a decision to take it, learn something new from it or extract information to use in your next step.

When You See It, You Know

When You See It, You Know

When I realize an opportunity is before me, I know without a doubt that it was meant for me to follow, I can feel it.

Most importantly, you must put in the work.  Reach out to someone for more information, return that phone call.  Keep looking and I promise soon you will be running toward your Dreamlife one quick step after another.

Our lives have been a series of steps since we toddled over our teddy bear trying to take our first baby steps.   Just like those first steps, you are in control of that First Big Step toward any and all things great yet to come in your beautiful life!  I’m excited for you!

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Get Out Of My Vocabulary!

Three Words And A Phrase

That Are Holding You Back

From Getting What You Want

As we continue along our journey, we strive to be a better person, more enlightened and well-informed so that we can make better decisions that will inevitably have positive overall effect on our lives and  this world.

People often say to me, “Jennifer, you are so positive and upbeat all the time.” Umm, no. I have moments of pure frustration hence THIS post.  But I do practice self-awareness daily.

How do you begin to change your thoughts to produce more of what you want?  By realizing negative thoughts which come out as negative words that cause negative actions.   I’m going to teach you some fun ways to always speak in the positive.  Say goodbye to these words:

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To me, just is a demeaning word that makes one feel less-than something or someone.

You are just a housewife, I am a doctor.
You are just a secretary, I am your boss.
You are just a astronaut, I am a physicist.

I loathe this word and all that it implies.  You are never just something.  You are always everything you want to be!  What’s even worse, is when you use just to describe something about yourself.

I’m just not smart enough to start my own business. 

Poppycock!

THERE ARE ALWAYS EXCEPTIONS TO THE RULE:

You may only use just as an an adverb or to emphasize a point: That’s just awful! (referring to worm pie) in this case, just is used to emphasize that worms do not taste very good baked in a pie.

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This word is the hardest one to eliminate.  I still almost say it on occasion.  Here is a game I have created to eliminate these words:  When you start to say I ne.. STOP, THINK of what your want and START using positive action words.

NEGATIVE: I need a job today

POSITIVE:  I will email my friends to see if they know of any jobs.

NEGATIVE: I need to make more friends.

POSITIVE: I am going to join a networking group.

NEGATIVE: I need to get a haircut.

POSITIVE: Tomorrow, I will make an appointment with Bob to get a haircut.

I know this last one sounds silly because your hair will grow back and you will want to get another haircut so you’ll feel better about your appearance.  But you must eliminate the word all-together.

(Notice in my explanation, I did not use the word need. That word is gone!)

THINK ABOUT THIS

If I told you to write down everything you needed in life- not just material things, but everything and instead- instructed you to begin every sentence with I need- what would you have?  You would have created a list of lack. The things you do not have and that’s it.

Now write down the same things, except this time cross out the word need. use positive words like, I will create, I can find, I will email, I am good at making..

NEGATIVE: I need to loose weight.

POSITIVE: I will research gyms in my area tomorrow and join one.

You’ve changed your entire negative thought  process into a solution.  Instead of creating lack, you have created an abundance.  You have started the creative thought process  to get what you want.

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the wisest words ever spoken by a puppet

TRY

This seemingly positive word of action is actually a lazy, negative word in disguise.  The word try is nothing more than a lazy promise. A weak link.  It is a negative word that means- don’t expect me to succeed, then you won’t be disappointedI don’t want to do it and I’m pretty sure I can’t won’t.

It’s a word used when somebody does not want to commit.  I will try to make it to the gym 3 times a week.   This is another excuse to not succeed and justify the effort, or lack thereof.

Take it!

Try To Take It

TRY TO  DO THIS WITH A $20 BILL

Grab a friend.  Take a $20 bill out of your pocket and hold it loosely between your fingers.  Now ask your friend to try to take the $20 out of your hand.  Do not tighten your grip.  Did he take it?  I’d bet yes.  EXACTLY!

He did not try to take the $20.  He did take the $20.  You cannot try to take it, you either will take it or you won’t.

Now take the $20  back and repeat again, “No, don’t take the $20, try to take it.”  Your friend will look puzzled- this is funny.  He will probably say that he did try to take it and succeeded.

Wrong! What he did was signal his brain to move his arm to move his hand to grasp the $20 bill and closed his fingers around it and pulled it backwards and held it in his hand.  He did all that to accomplish the task. He succeeded in the task.

What he did not do was try to take it.  Make Sense?

LET”S BE HONEST HERE

Say you are in sales and only took the job because you felt you had no other option.  When the boss asks you why you were last in sales this month, you have one of two choices.

1. Listen to his suggestions and put them into action and increase your sales

OR

2. Be honest and say, “I really don’t want to work here.  I will probably quit when I find something better that I like  more than this job.  Until then, I will be lazy and sulk.” In other words, You’ll try to do better.  They both mean  the same thing.

Do not ever try to do anything again. Make the decision to make it happen and you will be blown away by how many things you are now getting done.

Don't Forget ?

THE PHRASE THAT DOESN’T PAY

How many times do we tell someone not to forget something?  and how many times DO we actually forget things we were told not to?

The reason for this is because the subconscious mind is fooled by the negative words, and ignores them.  Negative words are like a hole- there is nothing there to process.  It simply will not retain the negative.  There many books and studies on this matter.

NEGATIVE: Don’t forget to pick up milk before you come home.

but what your subconscious hears is- forget to pick up milk

(the don’t is unheard by your subconscious mind)

POSITIVE: Honey, remember to pick up milk at the store before you come home.

I have found that by eliminating negative words and substituting positive action words instead, my thought process about a particular situation begins to change, immediately and I’m better able to come up with a solution to a problem on the spot instead of dwelling on the negative.  Now you try do it.

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Your Last 24 Hours Experiment

Sit still for 24 whole hours- not moving and staring at a wall. I bet that was the longest day of your life, huh?

Now imagine finding out that you will be gone forever in 24 hours.

Time couldn’t slow down enough. Would you spend your whole time being sad, crying and in denial OR in desperation trying to do the things that you always talk about- but never get around to doing?

Your Last 24 Hours Experiment

In either scenario- 24 hours will pass. That is certain.

Are you making excuses for why you won’t do something? I can’t do that because I’ll already be 40 next year.  Well, guess what? You’re going to be 40 next year if you do it or if you don’t.

Or, I can’t move to my dream-place because I have to save more money.  You know what? There is currency in your dream-place too.

The last 24 will come my friend.  Will you be fulfilled and excited by the life you chose to live or gut-wrenchingly disappointed in yourself that you settled?   Remember,  you won’t be able to turn the hour glass over when your time runs out.

This video may be the best six minutes you ever spend on the internet.

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